Most of us hide behind a lot of fictitiousness, especially in this day and age of the social media. Our timelines and profiles are filled with all the amazing things happening in our lives, which is a good thing by the way as it boosts the self esteem and massages the ego. It however paints a picture of an all perfect, rosy lifestyle with no set-backs which is not practical. A perfect whole can never be one sided; this would imply that it is either imbalanced or fake.

Kintsugi is a Japanese art of mending broken pottery through use of lacquer mixed with powdered gold. The term Kintsugi is an infusion of two words ‘Kin’ (Gold), and ‘Tsugi’ (Joinery) which can thus be practically translated as “join with gold” or “golden joinery.” The concept behind Kintsugi is based on a Zen-Buddhist philosophy, rather aesthetics, which state that the broken pieces of an accidentally smashed pot should be carefully picked up, re-assembled, glued together with lacquer that has been mixed with the most expensive gold powder. There should be no attempt to conceal the defects of the smashed pot, rather to expose or accentuate them in the most beautiful of ways.

The point here is that both our perfections and imperfections is what makes us beautiful and authentic. Within our mental blueprint we have this ideal self whom we flaunt around hoping to fit in with the rest of the flock forgetting that what is unique about us is what makes us stand out. The flaws that we are so much trying to hide are just as beautiful as the glamorous side of us that we are eager to show the world.

The secret is this; to really “live”, to experience the kind of life that you are reasonably content with; you must find yourself acceptable to you. This is also the only way you can also be truly acceptable to others. You must have a wholesome self-esteem. You must have a self that you can fully embrace without shame, a self you can trust and believe in. You must accept and embrace both your strength and your weaknesses- and be brutally honest with yourself regarding both. By doing this, you will be able to fully and creatively express yourself rather than hide or cover up. You will be able to properly correspond to reality and function effectively in the real world.

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